20 Months LID

We have been logged in at CCAA and waiting for referral for 20 months and our current best guess at when we'll receive referral is sometime in 2009. Maybe.

For those outside of the China adoption community, here are some answers to frequently asked questions and frequently heard comments:

• Yes, we've looked into other options and at this point we're staying with China.
• No, we have not done anything wrong - all families waiting for a non-special needs child from China are in the same boat.
• No, there is no way to speed it up - China has an orderly system where it's 'first come, first served' and there are a lot of people in line ahead of us.
• No, we are not going to get pregnant to speed up receiving a child. We are not infertile as far as we know, but we made a choice to complete our family through adoption and as I've said repeatedly, we have no interest in conceiving a biological child when there are so many children in this world who need families and we are not tied to our genes. If anyone pushes this point, prepare yourself for my unedited comments about how I really feel about overpopulating the earth.
• Again, adoption is not settling and having a biological child is not superior to adopting a child in any way, shape for form, so please stop with the comments that imply that.
• Yes, this wait sucks.
• Yes, we will continue to wait.