20 Months LID

We have been logged in at CCAA and waiting for referral for 20 months and our current best guess at when we'll receive referral is sometime in 2009. Maybe.

For those outside of the China adoption community, here are some answers to frequently asked questions and frequently heard comments:

• Yes, we've looked into other options and at this point we're staying with China.
• No, we have not done anything wrong - all families waiting for a non-special needs child from China are in the same boat.
• No, there is no way to speed it up - China has an orderly system where it's 'first come, first served' and there are a lot of people in line ahead of us.
• No, we are not going to get pregnant to speed up receiving a child. We are not infertile as far as we know, but we made a choice to complete our family through adoption and as I've said repeatedly, we have no interest in conceiving a biological child when there are so many children in this world who need families and we are not tied to our genes. If anyone pushes this point, prepare yourself for my unedited comments about how I really feel about overpopulating the earth.
• Again, adoption is not settling and having a biological child is not superior to adopting a child in any way, shape for form, so please stop with the comments that imply that.
• Yes, this wait sucks.
• Yes, we will continue to wait.

December Stork Alert

Referrals are out. Those families logged in December 9 through December 14, 2005 will be receiving their referrals this week. Congratulations to all of you.

6 calendar days of referrals means there are now 126 LID days ahead of us to be matched. This rate of referrals gets more depressing each month. If the current rate continues we will not see our child until mid to late 2009. Yes, you read that right - that's a '9', not an '8'.

This is so very hard. For any new readers, we expected about a 10 month wait, give or take. Now we'll be lucky to wait only 3 years.

And please, if you comment, leave out the "worththewaitallingodstime" bullshit. I simply don't want to hear it.