Sunday, April 22, 2007

Earth Day Every Day!


Welcome to Earth Day 2007! Earth Day is every day, really...ever since the Big Blue Marble, Mutual of Omaha's Wild Kingdom and the anti-litter commercial with the crying Native American I was hooked. Hooked on a place so incredibly beautiful with never ending things to discover. I wish more people were hooked on nature. We're destroying it...fast. We need to embrace it and preserve it for ourselves and future generations...
We've all heard "if every person just does one thing". I'm calling BS on that one. Why can't each person do more than one thing? Why can we all do lots of things? Environmentally conscious options are nearly mainstream - they're everywhere - they're affordable and often free! So I'm calling out to all my blog readers - don't do "one thing" - do as much as you can starting now so that when we visit the parks and preserves with our children they can experience the wildflowers and trees, the frogs and the fishes and all else that creates that sense of wonder in all of us...
  • Recycle paper, cans, glass, plastics - most communities have pick ups or drop off locations to make it easy;
  • Change your light bulbs to the new energy efficient kind - and don't forget to recycle them or include them with your household hazardous waste - do not throw them in the trash;
  • Shut off the lights when you leave a room;
  • Turn the water off when you're brushing your teeth or shaving;
  • Use Energy Star appliances;
  • Drive a high mileage, low emissions vehicle - doesn't have to be hybrid to make a difference;
  • Use organic lawn care and gardening methods and products - they work just and well, and in the long run they work better than hazardous chemical based methods;
  • Plant native grasses and flowers - after establishing they are far hardier than other ornamentals because they evolved for your climate - that means they ultimately use less water and work to keep them beautiful;
  • Buy organic and locally grown produce as much as possible - buying organic sends a message that we don't want all of those unnecessary chemicals in our food and buying local supports local family farms and reduces the pollution needed to get that food onto your table;
  • Don't litter (major pet peeve);
  • Collect roof run off in a rain barrel to water plants and gardens;
  • Take your kids outside, show them nature, let them explore;
  • Ride your bike or walk instead of driving - to work, to the store, to the park.
  • Eat less meat and eat naturally, humanely and sustainable raised meat - meat production is very resource intensive.

What are you all doing to reduce your footprint on the Earth?

Jacek and I drive a low emissions vehicle. It even qualifies for conservation parking at work! We're selling our second vehicle. We try to bike to the store to a friend's house when we can. We are almost done replacing all of our light bulbs with high efficiency bulbs - even our outdoor floodlights on the patio. We bought a small dishwasher for our small kitchen so we use less water to wash our dishes. Our neighborhood put a huge recycle dumpster in a nearby park so we started recycling everything - and reduced our trash by about two-thirds! We take our old paints, chemicals and florescent lights to household hazardous waste collection sites. We shut off the water when we brush our teeth. We collect rain from our garage roof to water our plants and gardens. We now have 2 compost bins and are considering adding a third. We have a native prairie garden in the backyard that attracts lots of birds, bees and butterflies. We grow and organic veggie garden every summer. We use organic lawn care methods and products. We buy organic and local produce. We eat far less meat and when we do eat it we buy naturally, humanely and sustainable raised meat and seafood. We spend time outdoors as much as we can.

Here's to Earth Day - Every Day!!!

Friday, April 20, 2007

ONE

One. One year ago today, on April 20, 2006, our adoption dossier that we had taken so many hours, days and months to prepare was officially logged in at the China Center for Adoption Affairs (CCAA). This is the date we began standing in the growing line that is China adoption. One year. Twelve months. Three hundred sixty five days.

We started the adoption journey in January of 2005. We honed in on China later that summer. Due to the "speed" of our first homestudy agency, it took us twice as long as it should have to have our homestudy complete so our dossier didn't go to China until April 2006, resulting in our Log in Date (LID) of 4/20/06...the start of our "paper pregnancy".

At that time the wait from LID to referral had just started to grow from 6-8 months to 8-10 months. We fully expected to be home with our child by now.

But here we stand. One year into our wait and we may only be half way there...or less. Ahead of us in line there are 175 LID days to be matched. Last month, only 2 LID days were matched. Referrals are sent about once a month. Right now there are far more parent dossiers ready to be matched than baby dossiers. Yes, there are still many many children in Chinese orphanages, but not all are eligible for international adoption. It requires paperwork on the part of orphanage directors and either they are not willing or do not have the resources to do more.

So we wait. We're still guessing we'll be matched this time next year. It's just a guess, of course and it could even be later than that. But we will continue to wait because at the end of this journey is our first child.

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Say What?!

It comes with the territory. You choose to adopt you open yourself up to a seemingly endless array of inane remarks. Jacek and I are no exception. Since we first announced our intention to adopt we’ve heard a great variety of negative comments, judgments and directives from friends and family. While we don’t believe any of them had bad intention, we present them in our “Say What?” series as an educational opportunity for those outside of the adoption community.

By far the number one crazy comment we’ve received has been “You’re adopting – now you’ll get pregnant for sure!” (Um, we don't want to get pregnant!) The person then goes on to tell us of a friend of a friend of a coworker who adopts and then magically conceives and births a biological child. If you said this to us, don't feel bad - almost everyone did. Other not-so-innocent related comments we’ve received include “Just have your own!”, “I think you should [have your own]”, and “I was really hoping you’d get pregnant and forget this whole adoption thing.”

Some emotions that ran through my head in particular when I heard the comments included amusement, anger, annoyance, disbelief and sadness that there are people who will be in our child’s life who might think that she is second best because she does not share our genetic material or that we "settled".

We don’t see having a biological child as preferential to adopting. In fact, quite the opposite is true for us. Completing our family through adoption is our first choice. We’re what some call “preferential adopters”. We chose to adopt because we want a child (or two) and honestly don’t see the point of giving birth when there are so many orphans in the world in need of homes. We are not attached to our DNA and I have no desire to experience pregnancy or childbirth. That’s right, none. Never have had the desire, never will.

For others in the adoption community who have struggled with infertility, I’m guessing that the emotions associated with "now you'll get pregant" and related comments sting extra hard.

Stay tuned for the next installment of Say What?! when we'll discuss comments based on misconceptions about adoption...

Monday, April 09, 2007

April Stork Alert

Congratulations to families logged in October 25th and 26th, 2005! Your referrals are here!

Yes, you see that right - only 2 log in dates referred this month. Apparently there were an unusually large number of dossiers logged in at CCAA during these 2 days. The snails pace continues...

Thursday, April 05, 2007

Birthday Surprise


Check out what Jacek brought home for my birthday! The flowers took my breath away and swept my frazzled mind back to Hawaii...perfection!


Thank you honey! I love you!